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We often hear in our country about the struggles families have today in our culture.  Unemployment, single mothers, child behavioral issues.  Today I wanted to tell you about a family in Swaziland we’ve been trying to work with.
 
Last year we had a mother bring her 3 boys to the Anchor Center in Nsoko.  She said she could no longer care for the boys.  Her husband was dead and she was too sick to keep them.  She even told our staff member we could have the boys as “slaves” and do whatever we wanted with them.
 
We were able to place the boys with a local grand mother (Gogo) who agreed to feed them and generally look after them.  Then we had a donor come along who wanted to help pay for things like food, some furniture, and their school fees.
 
As of late the grandmother was getting tired of dealing with everything that comes along with raising 3 pre-adolescent boys.  We then set out to find the mother and see if she was still alive, and if so was she able to take the boys back.  I received this (edited) email from our staff member on the ground Brandon Jones.
 
“We showed up just in time before Musa and his older
sister were about to leave the house. His mother was outside of the house still
working.  Had we arrived any sooner we would have encountered an
empty house. We piled Musa and his sister in the car and went around looking
for their mother. When we pulled up to where she was the Gogo rushed out of the
car and the two embraced and smiled at each other. After we all greeted each
other we got down to business of discussing the boys.
 
We sat in the car so that
Musa couldn’t hear what we were discussing, and he sat off in the distance with
our guide, Sabello. Right off the bat she stated that she had no intention of
taking the boys back. If she were to keep the boys she said that she feared if
she got desperate enough she would kill herself and kill the boys to alleviate
their situation. The she told us that they weren’t her kids anymore because she
had given them as a gift to our ministry. 

After some time of discussing the matter the emotional
burden of what we were talking about proved to be too much for the mother and
she excused herself from the van to go off and sob, bent in half, in the grass.

The mother herself did not look to be in good health, and
she also admitted that her health was poor. Her glands were extremely swollen
and she was underweight. Her husband died a similar death years back.

It’s very likely she is HIV+. I think she so desperately
doesn’t want to take care of her kids because she fears she will be dying soon.

She came back to the van still sobbing and still
maintaining that she didn’t want her children. Mind you that in front of the
van like 15 feet away Musa is sitting in the grass looking off in the distance,
fully in view by all of us in the car. It was not an easy thing to hear a
mother say, while looking at her child, “I don’t want my kids”and then start to sob.

Here’s the deal, these boys can’t stay with their mom in
her current state. She is sick, desperate, and emotionally unstable. The Gogo
is actually willing to let the boys stay on her property if we will help her to
raise these kids. Just providing food won’t cut it. She needs help cooking for
the kids and washing their clothes (basically, the physical aspects of caring
for them). And they still need a proper shelter for them to stay in. I actually
think this is the best plan for them right now, and so does Pastor Bheki. I see
this as slowly pushing us in the direction that we dream to head in. The bottom
line is that if we are going to address the need of THIS community we need some
sort of safe house for kids to stay in until we can find a better situation for
them. I believe this Gogo’s offer to us could be a valuable relationship to
help us address the needs of the community through one of its members who has a
heart for the youth in this area.”
 
 
The mother with one of the boys
 
The Gogo who cares for the boys and the house they live in.
 

Even with the challenges we’d like to form more homes like this one.  There are so many other similar stories!  Please pray with us as we come alongside the Swazis and ask the Lord for Godly, culturally appropriate, and wise solutions.

 
 

2 responses to “A Struggling Family”

  1. Praying for those of you at AIM and in Swaziland as you make decisions and praying for our family as we seek how we can be part of the solution.

    Thank you, Scott, and the other Swazi/AIM staff for all you are doing for His precious “least of these”.

    Salani Kahle,
    Elysa

  2. This is both encouraging and concerning for me to read. It’s encouraging to know that the boys have still been taken care of, but definately makes me wonder what will happen in the near future. I miss those boys a ton and think of them often. If you get a chance, let them know they are in my thoughts and prayers.
    Traci (Swazi Gogo) Derington